For years Iâ€™ve talked to people about voluntary simplicity, and for years people have responded with: â€œWhatâ€™s that thing youâ€™re involved inâ€”that self-deprivation movement?â€
What theyâ€™re thinking about, of course, is the imperative to reduce consumerismâ€”something thatâ€™s destroying the planet. Unfortunately, instead of seeing this as an opportunity for a richer life, many see it as â€œself deprivationâ€!
Of course simplicity is about much more than â€œcutting back.â€ Itâ€™s â€œthe examined life,â€ asking ourselves whatâ€™s important and what matters. But still, what people hear is: â€œDeprive yourself! No more fun!â€
Itâ€™s the cry of a desperate populationâ€”one that doesnâ€™t understand what happiness is. But this is where the â€œnewâ€ simplicity comes in. When we first began talking about simplicity, it seemed obvious that Americans were confused about happinessâ€”we have believed that if we get rich, weâ€™ll be happy.
Common sense and the wisdom of the ages have always argued otherwise, but now the research has come pouring inâ€”itâ€™s very clear that, after a certain point, more money doesnâ€™t bring happiness.
Enrich Yourself, But How?
Social ties. Relationships to people. The feelings of love and belonging.
Some of the most persuasive evidence comes to us from the work of Richard Wilkinson and Kate Pickett in their book on wealth inequality, The Spirit Level. They found that the bigger a countryâ€™s wealth gap, the more other problems growâ€”things like mental illness, violence, incarceration, even obesity. The most striking fact, though, is that the wealth gap predicts longevity. Apparently even the rich person in this country doesnâ€™t live as long as the average person in a place like Denmark, where the wealth gap is small. Why? Again, itâ€™s because a wealth gap undermines social cohesion in a society.
So those of us involved in the simplicity movement have been asking how we can help increase social ties. In my new book, Living Room Revolution, I focus on conversation and community. Weâ€™re taking back our living roomsâ€”throwing out the old tyrant TV, and bringing people together in a congenial setting to talk. And of course the â€œliving roomâ€ is also symbolicâ€”weâ€™re bringing hospitality and conviviality into any setting we can, increasing conversation and community wherever we can.
Thereâ€™s much evidence that social ties increase an individualâ€™s health and happiness. But they also build civic engagement and a responsive democracy. As Robert Putnam of Bowling Alone says, â€œThe culture in which people talk over the back fence with their neighbors is the culture in which people vote.â€ As people connect, they begin to care more about each other and are concerned for the common good. As philosopher John Dewey said, â€œDemocracy begins in conversation.â€
A New Approach
So how does the â€œNew Simplicityâ€ respond? Well, itâ€™s still vital that we reduce consumerism, but weâ€™re talking about it differently. We explain to people that one way to reduce consumerism is to hang out with friends in a cafÃ©. Much more fun than an aimless trip to the shopping mall.
And research shows that in a culture in which people spend more time together, there is less consumerism. Not only is hanging out in a cafÃ© more fun than shopping, but our connectedness makes us feel more secure and we donâ€™t need more stuff to impress people.
Lesson learned? The cure to so many of our problems, particularly consumerism, is more community. When we learn to care for each other, we end up caring for all of life, the planet included. The New Simplicity helps people to realize that weâ€™re better together.Î¦
Read more about Cecile Andrewsâ€™ books and activities on her website and blog . Her latest book is Living Room Revolution: A Handbook for Conversation, Community, and the Common Good. This article originally appeared at http://www.newdream.org/blog/happiness-and-the-new-simplicity-the-living-room-revolution-of-community.